The romance between Reese Witherspoon and Jake Gyllenhaal first began back in April as fun, casual dating. The two actors were said to share "a mutual interest" but were "taking it slow." Fans hoped the couple would succeed, given that they share a modest, family-centered lifestyle, love kids, and prefer to keep a low-profile.
But by the end of June, the pair had announced a split, and the rumor was that Reese had ended it out of concern for preserving her family's unity and not getting too serious too soon after her October divorce from Ryan Phillippe.
Jake and Reese remained friends post-split, and have had only nice things to say about each other...but it seems that they have had a tough time keeping their "friendship" platonic!
Just a month after their "break-up" Reese and Jake were spotted in a car together driving around the Hollywood Hills, raising suspicion that their romance had picked back up. Then they were said to have shared a secret rendezvous in August. A few months later, though, they were seen together in Toronto looking stiff and uncomfortable, instigating reports that their relationship was finally kaput.
But any doubts that Jake and Reese are over each other has gone out the window since the couple were spotted together in Rome this weekend - allowing their displays of affection to be caught on film for the first time and looking totally in love as they strolled the historic city hand in hand.
So why all the months of on-again-off-again romance, when these two are so obviously in love?
While sources have simply called them a "rocky couple," ex-hubby Ryan Phillippe may be playing a bigger role than most people realized.
It is a given that Ryan would want to preserve his sense of family and not feel displaced by a new father figure. In consideration of this, Reese reportedly "[forbade Jake from spending] the night when the kids are around" and made an effort to continue spending time with her whole family, Ryan included. But despite her efforts to respect his boundaries, Ryan appeared to be threatened by Jake, who he called "that guy", "didn't want around his kids," and crudely made fun of for his Brokeback Mountain role.
Perhaps Reese Witherspoon got fed up with indulging Ryan's hypocrisy. She may have gotten wind of the recent rumors that Ryan had picked back up with Abbie Cornish - the woman who may have been Ryan's mistress and the partial cause of his divorce - and thought: why should I be making sacrifices in her love life to make Ryan feel better, if he is off getting romance of his own?
Still, Reese's rocky relationship with Jake may also have been the result of a power struggle, according to The Daily Mail:
"Reese has made it clear she likes to be the one in control of a relationship. She told Elle magazine last month: '[My dad and uncle] taught me that in every relationship, the person least interested in maintaining it is going to dominate it, because they'll never compromise. So you have to always maintain that position of least interest, and you'll always control the relationship.'"
If Reese is sticking to her rules, we know who's wearing the pants in this relationship, don't we?!
Well regardless of who's "on top", both Jake and Reese look thrilled to be together - and their public coming-out seems to only be a sign of more romance to come!